Personal Development Abroad: Identity

Words and photos by Anika Woelffer, our Jetsetter Journalist who is studying abroad in Sorrento, Italy, during Spring semester 2024.

After spending four months in Sorrento, Italy, I have learned so much about myself and what I value when it comes to friendships, self-care, and embracing new experiences. I had certain expectations about what this chapter of my life would entail. However, I was surprised to find that not only have those expectations been exceeded, but the experiences I've had here have had a much deeper impact on me than I initially anticipated.

Some of the biggest challenges I've had to overcome are that some friendships don't work out and it's okay to spend time alone. It’s hard to make really good friends in such a short amount of time and it's not worth forcing something if you aren't being treated how you deserve. I've met some amazing people (and not so amazing) and that's what showed me how to find good people to surround yourself with. I learned that not everyone has your best interest at heart and it's okay to take a step back and enjoy your own company. I also learned you can't please everyone and some people aren't going to like you for no reason and that's okay. I worked really hard to let things go this semester and do things that make me happy. I used to be a big people pleaser and now that I'm not anymore, I just put my energy into those who I think respect me and enjoy my presence.

My time here was short, but it was the most I've grown as a person. I am much more confident in myself than when I came here and, most importantly, I learned how to stick up for myself and not let people walk all over me. I've had some really high highs and some really low lows while abroad, but I wouldn't change anything about my experience.

Moving 5,000 miles away to a country where people speak a different language was the scariest thing I've ever done, but I am so proud that I was able to thrive in an uncomfortable environment. I've learned to love Italian culture, the food, the history, and the slow-paced lifestyle, and I will forever miss the beauty of Sorrento. It's truly paradise and I am beyond lucky to have lived in such a beautiful place.

As the final countdown begins while I write this post, I will cherish the friendships I made, reflecting on the countless memories we shared and the growth we've experienced together. I've realized that life is too short to stay in one place and experiencing the beauty of the world has opened my eyes to endless possibilities and opportunities for growth and discovery. I will incorporate this into my life back home by not taking anything for granted and finding beauty in each day.

Although my lifestyle will be different back home, I'm excited to share my experiences and things I've learned with my friends and family.